I recently met up with a friend who after living here for a couple of decades had decided to move back to her home country. I had met her on a tour and we ended up becoming really close friends.
Anyway, this got me thinking.....One of the things I have found really hard about freelancing and touring is getting really close to people you are working on a project with....temporarily. The idea of compartmentalising a tour friendship and when you get home it's over.
While some friendships survive the transition when you get home and become life-long relationships, most do not and that's ok. When you think about it, it would be impossible to remain friends with everyone you had ever been tour buddies with. I think this is one of the main causes of post-tour depression....you know that feeling when you come home and are hit with the reality of your normal life. You have been away experiencing all these things only to get home to your nearest and dearest who haven't a clue what you are talking about.
After your tour adventures, you come back to find your friends and family don’t want to hear about your travels while they were coping with work, rush hour and day to day life. They also don’t get why you feel so uncomfortable being back.
You feel as if you came back to exactly the spot you left.
I know. I’ve been there. And so have many others.
Post-travel depression is real. Anyone who has returned from a trip knows what I’m talking about. Going to amazing places is one of the great perks of our job but seldom do we address the idea that coming home is often harder than leaving. I originally joined Facebook to help me commiserate and share experiences with my tour friends…it didn’t help much.
Maybe that's why I started writing in the first place...so I had a place to share those memories before they were lost altogether in the memories of daily life.
Still, there are those times when you connect with someone and they become a real friend that you can look back over the years at those tours and share your memories of them. (Hopefully, that will work over Skype....)